As people continue to yell at each other, I recommended discussions to understand the other person’s point of view. Someone stated, It is no use. They are not listening.
Of course that response illustrates the point. How can you expect someone else to listen if you refuse to listen. Changing the world starts by changing ourselves.
I bought several sets of tapes by Jack Boland, a Unity Minister. He had a large congregation that was focused on addiction recovery. He said that many people have a prayer similar to the following:
God please change my world – just don’t change me. I am just fine.
The first thing that I must change is myself. The only thing I have any control over is myself. Once I became the programmer and operator of my own life, I became more accepting of others. I realized that they had not yet taken control and were living their programming.
Imagine that you want to change someone else’s programming. How would you do that? Would you holler and yell and tell them how stupid they are? Is that how you want to be treated?
What if you want to change yourself? Would you hire a coach who would holler and scream at you and tell you how stupid you are? Or would you hire a coach who could expertly ask you questions that would help you release the programming that was running your life?
Huge changes can happen in our lives when we find the right question that stops the programming and sends an alert to the master programmer/operator asking for help. Until then, we lead programmed lives and blame others for our limitations.
Remember what flight attendants say. When the oxygen mask descends, put yours on first and then help someone else. That advice works in nearly all fields of life. If you want to change the world, change yourself first.